maRriaGe? No waY!!!

80% of Malaysian Women Will Wait After 30, Says Survey…

Familiar wif dat headlines? It’z actually being quoted from an article in New Sunday Times newspaper d other day (5th March 2006). I bet each & every women or even men hev their own point of views izzenit… Amongst the Top 10 Reasons stated wuz bcoz of :

1. Career priorities

2. Lack of sexual desire

3. Infertility (a.k.a mandul)

4. Search for single & available rich husbands@ professional men that seemed to become extinct species nowadays

5. Lack of "men with quality" in the country ( men ended up to be involved in drugs, gay @ soft instead..*sigh* what a loss~)

6. Social Skills

7. Frustration due to previous failed relationships

8. Absence of family pressure

9. Men who hev inferiority complexes that did not like marrying women more qualified than ‘em ( I sense big E for "EGO" ‘ere…)

10. The lack amount of men in this whole wide world compared to women (Where have all the cowboys gone to?)

Gosh, wat a pity sight indeed..The practical thing here would seem 2 b to allow men to marry MORE THAN ONE (Poligamy) which would definitely NOT be a good solution for ME especially!!! (purposely being emphasized, geddit…*heh*)

Having a CAREER (which top the list) for me..is rather important bcoz other than it symbolizes independence, it also meant alot for women to feel an indebtness to their parents & feel the need to be financially secured to be able to contribute to the family eventually. It’s not greed that makes career a priority for women. It’s simply for self-preservation incase there’s any mishap (not dat i’m asking for any) but hey, it might juz happen,rite..such as marriage problems, husband takes another wife@ mistress (choy, touchwood!). The bottom line is, husband should not be intimidated by the fact that women wif career is now a common thing. The husband does not necessarily hefta make more than the wife. It’s now more about sharing responsibilities. If u really love one another, it will not matter who makes more…

Dun get me wrong..I’m saying this NOT becoz that I prefer to be married after 30 or not being married at all..Well, jodoh ditangan Tuhan..u neva know wen ur

time will come…I look at marriage now as responsibility. Unless men come in equal partners in a marriage, I might not be interested jus yet…I hope that men wouldn’t look at marriage as a platform for them to prove dat they are "men".

If God willing, I hope that my marriage wudn’t be too early nor too late..ard the age of 25-30 leddet (Insyallah)..& here’s y.. Marriage at an early age for me is not very promising…With the current high rate of divorce and marriages breaking down due to immature marriages,that’s something i shud ponder upon ( not to mention dat i shud really wurk on my cooking skills first to pass the "mother-in-law-gonnaB-test" wif "restu" & flying colours..*yikes~* ). Late marriage for me, cud be a problem oso…Coz i kinda fear da syndrome of; Menopause (wowo~).

Menopause = the time in a woman’s life when she no longer ovulates (produces eggs) and the production of the hormones progestin and estrogen decline. In most cases, menopause begins between the ages of 40 and 44 ( for some it begins in the 30’s).

Put it in layman’s term..The "baby-making-machine" might eventually bcome malfunctioned..which iz a pitiful sight here…coz heving offsprings wud be sooooo much overhelming wif joy i gez…. No matter wat, i’m hoping to be able to be committed someday wif my soul-mate for better, for worst, for richer, for poorer, in sickness, and in health, until death do us part..& may Allah bless US wif ONE HAPPY FAMILY!!! Insyallah…

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